Being Present

In this distracted world, there are plenty of opportunities to multitask and take our attention away from the ones we love. The phone, iPad or miniseries on Netflix all vie for our attention and distract us from connecting with others. Relationships thrive on interactions. 

If you find yourself in a relationship that feels distant, take a moment to think about how present you really are. Taking time away from the phone, especially when on date night or drinking your morning coffee together, gives you the opportunity to connect through conversation and simply being together. 

But… but… but… you may be asking yourself “what about X or the news or the funny reel that crops up? I may miss something!” That is true, but what are you reading or seeing that is building your relationship? 

Now to be fair, let’s say your morning routine is going online to check the news or look at emails etc., you could verbally share with your partner what you are reading or seeing which brings them into your world. By sharing with one another you can stimulate a conversation. Too many of us spend time in our head reading, or playing games on the phone, or watching other people’s lives so that we forget to live our own lives in the here and now.

Being present is a gift you give to one another. It says you are important to me. I am interested in what you have to say. I value our time together. So, put the phone down and take a few minutes to be together. You will be amazed at how quickly you will be reconnected!